We all know how those first conversations go when you talk to someone new that you are interested in. We ask/answer a lot of the same questions. “Do you have any siblings? What do you want to be when you grow up? What’s the freakiest place you ever had sex?” One question I will not answer ever again is “What are you looking for in a person?”

That is just too much information. But WHY do you ask? Guys, have you ever had a conversation with a girl, you may talk about how sexually open you are, and then the next thing you know she turns into the “freak of the week”. Be cautious because sometimes that is just too damn convenient. Or ladies, you may state how you are about to take your career serious and the guy gives you some lame speech about how he is on his “grown man” now, how he no longer goes clubbing because it is “played out” etc. etc. and so forth.

I guess sometimes people are so into other people they are willing to say anything or do anything at that moment to get in a good spot. Or they are not comfortable with being themselves, or they are really just physically attracted to you and want to fuck, but feel bad about it. There are many reasons. But if you give the details of what you are looking for in a person, you may have set yourself up in a trap. People are great actors, and once they have you hooked, they get comfortable and start to settle and show their true colors. Then you are crying in your pillow, trying to figure out if you should stay in the relationship and work things out because that’s what a “good partner” does, when it could have been avoided.

Of course people just change within and relationship. I’m just saying if you are my type, you will know….eventually.